what you speak about becomes who you're all about!

If you really want to get to know someone listen closely to what they talk about.Especially over time. We all have things we need to work through. We all face some kind of struggle in our lives. But when a person begins to get consumed with a certain type of emotion or circumstance is when it becomes toxic.That toxicity can then spread and affect many other things in your life. Everything begins in our thoughts. What we think soon becomes what we speak.What we speak soon becomes what we act upon and so forth. So if you're consumed in something or some kind of negative emotion,if you're thinking negative thoughts then eventually this will become your life and who you are. This is why its so important to read,study and believe in Gods word.His word is TRUTH! If we study His word and its in our thoughts then those thoughts produce how we act. Any circumstance that arises we can overcome because of what the word of God says. We stand on His word. We believe it to be our truth that will lead us throughout our life. He fights the battle with us by His side. 

We all have seen people throughout our lives continue doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. But we all know it just doesn't work that way. " If you do what you always do, you'll get what you always got". You can't expect to plant the same seeds and reap a different harvest. You've got to plant different seeds to reap a different harvest. Is the soil you are planting your seeds in healthy soil? In order to plant different seeds you've got to think differently. If you are stuck in a place that you just can't seem to climb out of I would encourage you to go to God first. He should always be your "go to guy". Get in His word and meditate on it. God never leaves you.Its us that leave Him. His word is always available and through prayer we can talk to Him,confess our sins and ask Him to forgive us and change us. I can't tell you how many times I ask God to bring things to the surface in me that I may be unaware of and God always does it. He wants to " refine us like a piece of silver". When we ask God into our hearts He cleanses us. The "old" is gone and we are "made new in Christ". This is why Jesus died on the cross. How awesome is it that all we have to do is confess and ask God to be our Savior and come into our heart. He knows if we mean it. He knows our every thought, our every struggle, our every desire, our every heartache, our every flaw and He still loves us anyway. No human can ever give you this. That's why it is so important to put God first in your life because He makes us whole.He created it to be this way. If someone looked at you and said " I expect you to fulfill my every need and make me happy all the time" do you think you could do that? Of course not. Its because you were not designed to do that. Yes we can "help" fulfill our spouses needs to a certain degree. Marriage was created to glorify God and its a sacred gift but to expect another imperfect person to fulfill completely and make you whole is unrealistic. Once you understand who you are in Christ and you get into Gods words it will change your thoughts. Those thoughts will then become your actions which would be Christlike actions. Then you are able to bring others to Christ through the love and the Christ that is inside you.

Be careful what you speak about consistently. Lots of people conversate and share whats going on in their life but if you are constantly talking about you, your kids, your life, your job and never even mentioning anything about God then what kind of message are you sending? People talk about what they're passionate about. Listen carefully but keep in mind that its more about what they speak of consistently.Do a self evaluation. Next time you are talking to someone and you find yourself talking about you, turn the conversation into being about something other than you or concerning you. Creating new patterns can be difficult but consistency pays off. You can't get to know someone else if you are always talking about you. I had to work on this myself and I still struggle at times. We all like to talk about ourselves or our kids or our jobs or whatever we are passionate about but if you are a true follower of Christ then your passion for Him should be first.

Philippians 4:4-9

English Standard Version (ESV)

⁴  Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. ⁵ Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; ⁶  do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. ⁷ And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
⁸ Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. ⁹ What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.

Matthew 15:11

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¹¹  it is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person.”

Malachi 3

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² But who can endure the day of his coming, and who can stand when he appears? For he is like a refiner's fire and like fullers' soap. ³ He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver, and he will purify the sons of Levi and refine them like gold and silver, and they will bring offerings in righteousness to the Lord.^[a] 4 Then the offering of Judah and Jerusalem will be pleasing to the Lord as in the days of old and as in former years.

Proverbs 12:5

English Standard Version (ESV)

⁵ The thoughts of the righteous are just;
    the counsels of the wicked are deceitful

Psalms 34:13

Keep your tongue from evil
    and your lips from speaking deceit.